Demonstrate that giving back is the most important thing one can do. You can teach this with money. If you hand a kid a quarter to drop into the local street corner animal shelter container, they are just delivering YOUR money so nothing is learned. Sometimes kids need to know how it feels to help others with the sacrifice of donating their own money. This also works with donating some holiday and birthday presents and Halloween candy to the sick or poor.
If your child has certain special needs issues and invited to a birthday party, try to include them as much as possible. If the birthday party is a drop off party, you may ask to stick around by volunteering to help all the kids in order to be there for extra support and safety. Socialization is important and it is your duty to do everything possible to make sure it happens.
Most parents of children with special needs would love the opportunity to make the decision of what parts of a birthday party or play date their child can participate in. When organizing a party or play date, don’t forget the special ed friend who may only be in the class for part of the day.
If your child has certain special needs issues and invited to a birthday party, try to include them as much as possible in environments where they have the best chances of success. As a parent, you know the environments or situations that often are going to be successful or unsuccessful for your child. For example you may opt to skip the jewelry-making portion of a party if your child has poor fine motor skills. If your child doesn’t swim, you may not sign on to the swimming portion of the party. Find out the party’s schedule and bring your child when they are eating, opening presents, or doing other activities your child can successfully participate in.