The less you respond to rude, critical, and argumentative people, the more peaceful your life will become.
With school shootings in the news these days, there is one common factor that is often overlooked. The majority of school shooters feel the need to kill as a result of being the victim of bullying. Here are some scary bullying statistics from a 2013 study:
Percent of students who reported being bullied at school, on a school bus or on the way to and from school:
• Bullied at school: 21.5%
• Made fun of or insulted: 13.6%
• Subject of rumors: 13.2%
• Pushed, shoved, spit on or tripped: 6.0%
• Excluded from activities: 4.5%
• Threatened with harm: 3.9%
• Forced to do things they didn’t want to do: 2.2%
• Property destroyed: 1.6%
Know and believe in yourself, and what others think won’t disturb you.
- Has frequent meltdowns
- Acts wild
- Has trouble staying focused
- Loses it over little things
- Seems more clumsy
- Performs poorly on tasks you know they can usually do
- Has trouble waking up in the morning
- Craves carbohydrates
- Picks on siblings
Many studies have shown that people who speak first and loudest tend to persuade others to go along with their positions even when they are wrong. Teach your kids to always analyze and not be led blindly.
Be Strong (Part 2): Bullying
A coward dies a thousand deaths. A child that is a victim of bullying can feel like they die thousands of deaths at the hands of a bully. Despite some of the new “expect the bystanders to help” programs taught in schools today, the only real way to end bullying is for the victim to face their fear and stand up to the bully directly. This may risk pain and humiliation, but is the only true way to put an end to the problem before it ruins one’s life.
Do not accept unacceptable behavior.
If your child is being bullied, they need your complete support. Facing a bully can be a hard and scary thing for a child, so they need to know that you believe them and have their back. Your child needs to know that if they defend themselves against a bully and get in trouble at school for doing so, you will support them. It can be one of the most difficult things to do in the world but confronting a bully can be an opportunity for children to face their fears and learn to stand up for themselves.
Some signs that your child may be a victim of bullying include: fear of going to school, negative self talk, drop in grades, and sudden change in opinion about a specific person.
When telling the teacher doesn’t work, there are 2 ways to end bullying. Victims MUST confront bullies or parents should seek a lawsuit against school, principal, and/or bully. People that think it is funny or not happening will definitely end the harassment when faced with a lawsuit.
Parents and kids must do whatever it takes to make bullies stop their harassment. If not, your child’s life as they see it could be ruined.